I like hypotheticals, I like going through and thinking about the pro’s and con’s of a situation. Yes, I am very much a librian. I have had this discussion with many over the years. Sometimes it involves me, other times it doesn’t, but each case is different. I know both sides to the argument however I am curious and would like to hear from others on the subject.
If you met someone online, spoke more than daily; you both desperately wanted to met; you were in the financial position to put them on a plane or at the very least help – would you? What if they did not want to accept purely for financial reasons? Yet not meeting and wanting too was impacting both your daily lives – what would you do? If you truly didn’t care about the financial side. What if you knew they were not in a position to purchase the ticket or it would mean debt for them? Would you allow that? What if you had grown so fond of this person and wanted to be face to face? Do you respect their wishes and not help? Even if it was given as a gift and shouldn’t have any strings attached, do you allow them to pay it back if they so choose? Or do you respect them and wait, potentially years to meet? That is, if at all.
Thinking about this more as I write. Really, I guess this is hard to answer. As you could be in the same situation throughout your life with different partners and the responce could be different. Individuals and their circumstance, lifestyles, work, home, finances are always going to vary. As I said, I like to think these things through. Lol, might be time to go to bed!!
Night all. (well morning really)
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Good Morning to the Lady, didn't I say it was just hypothetical? Mumbles and I have thought of many things, none worked. Perhaps even guilt, but I backed away from that.
The desire is there, life just is in the way. I dont like it as I have been here before. Twice.
Now I have to really go to bed as Mary told me I had too. She likes being listened too. As she is sweet and all, I have to listen now and then. Night too all, have a wonderful weekend.
Smiles thanks Lisa but no one ever listens to me! nite nite
Good Morning, Lisa. I think if the desire is mutual and one runs into financial or pride type hurdles it's an opportunity to get inventive by brainstorming fun ideas to help raise the money. For instance, maybe suggest both have a competitive (or not) rummage sale on both ends...and joke about turning that useless lamp into the parking fee, etc. Go down the list of what's needed and silly things the two of you sold to make it happen. Turn it into an adventure leading up to the even greater one of meeting each other. A sort of innovative foreplay. Or, you could be more subtle. Say she's an artist. You could show her work around, find a buyer without her knowing you were instrumental in doing so. Where's there's a will, there's a way, I say! Just get creative or unorthodox figuring out how, based on knowledge of things you might never have considered being advantageous. In other words, think outside the box to remove the stress associated with gifting, loaning or borrowing money by taking it out of the equation. :)
*Waves to Sweet Mary. It's good to see you back! p.s. I listen to you! :)
I understood it was hypothetical Lisa, as was my response. Hope you have a great night and a wonderful weekend! :)
Sweet MarY,
Are you really going to try and pull that statement off? Do you want to re-think that? Gently patting your arse, *leaning over, whispering "You know that is not true, some ppl listened and I went to bed"
Looks like that at least 2 in this post. Why would ppl post things for you that you like if they didnt listen and know what you like. Smiling innocently here, cause I know I am right. Woohoo, a win for the morning!! Time to start this day, shower time. Enjoy your day all.
Ps: if I didnt listen, you'd still have your coffee with milk :-p
Humanoids only live for an average of 80 years. Personally, you should seize every moment in life as if it was your last day. yes we all have jobs, and yes we all have structured realities. but to be honest, there is nothing like letting go and taking a chance, breathing in the air and opening up to new things. Life isn't behind a computer, it's far more than mundane. We only have the time we have....DO SOMETHING WITH IT!!!!!
WOW Lisa, seems you have some unanswered shit. looking back on your response to Mary, I'm not sure if you are entirely hypothetical.
I for one am not trying to intercede in anything, I'm tired as it is....hope whatever you are going through works out:)
Well as you know Lisa I’ve made some spectacularly bad on-line character judgements in my time here so I’ve learned to accept my limitations. The irony of course is if I were to have such a problem I would come and ask YOU or Wanda as I’ve done in the past.
Hypothetically speaking if the problem was yours I would suggest you to talk to Camille as I find she has a very practical blend of wisdom and common sense.
Knowing that you will undoubtedly accuse me of fudging the question, and given my caveats above, I will endeavour to provide an answer.
Perhaps even more ironic is the fact that I’ve actually been in this situation. My then GF (of ten days standing) offered to fly me to New York on the basis that she had access to heavily discounted airline tickets.
I declined on the basis:
1. That I had my pride and my own money.
2. I didn’t like the idea of being adrift in New York if it all went ‘tits up.’ Strangely Boston or Melbourne wouldn’t have seemed so scary.
3. Oddly the fact that we’d only known each other ten days never really figured that large. Perhaps that was because we were probably both clinically barking.
Now here we get to the real paradox. If she’d said she was getting on a plane. I would have simply said what time are you arriving? I’ll be there to meet you. If that had happened I suspect it might have radically changed my life.
*Wanders off and tries to get my head around the idea that nobody ever listens to Mary.
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