Auntie Jill's Jillings

I’d like to start by wishing Merry Christmas to all our readers. We’ve had a sack load of greetings post, unfortunately all we have room for here are a couple of examples

Dear Auntie,
My boyfriend and I live in Moscow and having been visiting the Girl’s Coffee Shop for ten months to improve our English. We much enjoy your articles and think you have a great balance between sexy and serious. Donna and Tinker Tailor are big favourites of ours and we both sincerely thank you for them and look forward to many more episodes. Wishing you all a very Happy Christmas.
Seryozha and Masha

Thank you for sharing your wonderful, wonderful Coffee Shop with us all year. Merry Christmas to you, Donna, Thrupenny and all the girls backstage from your number one reader in Aix-en-Provence.
Bisouxx
Collette.

Lovely to hear from you Seryozha Masha and Collette.

There have been so many more who have written in to wish us Merry Christmas or to say how much you enjoy Donna, Tinker, the funny clips etc. Thank you all for writing in, suffice to say we truly do appreciate your feedback.

Many thanks: Melodie, Karen, Tig, CC, Tanya, Ekateirna, Danny and Dave, Angel, Pippa, Sophie, Tina, M, Rebecca, Klementina, Heike and Theresa, The Post Room, Annie, Stefanie, Babyshoes, Tink, Vixen, Melodie, Princess, Lily, Nurul, Mouse, Belle, Kandy, Jocelyn, Jill, Web Cowboy, Blodwyn, Irina the Terrible, Red Sox, Cecile, Ann & Sandy, Adele, Miss Whip, Snowdrop, Jane, I do hope I haven’t missed anyone.

Proceeding to our regular postbag.

Dear Auntie
My on-line girlfriend has cheated one me in the past and in her relationships too I’m told, even though we're doing really well right now. She says she wants us to be permanent and exclusive girlfriends, but how do I know that she won't cheat again?
Anonymous.

Dear Anonymous,
You can never guarantee that your girlfriend won’t cheat again. In fact there is nothing that you can do that will stop her from cheating if she sets her mind to it. I’m not suggesting that she will cheat again, but I don’t think there is anything you can do that will prevent her if she decides to cheat. Everyone enjoys freedom of action, although they may not have a conscience to match and if they want to cheat they will do it. I sincerely hope that she doesn’t cheat on you again although we’ve said it many times before – on line is a cheater’s paradise.

It might be prudent not to go for a permanent exclusive relationship but wait and see what her intentions are. My personal view when it comes to cheating is that once is once too often. My experience is that very few cheaters do it only once. I know not everyone will agree with me, but in my experience people who do it once go on to be serial cheaters. I believe you deserve better and that if you approach this flexibly and cautiously by keeping things loose your girlfriend may prove me wrong or you will find a girl out there that who will respect you by not cheating on you.
Dear Auntie,
I have been with my girlfriend for two years now. Once we used to enjoy a wonderful intimacy, but now it’s a red letter day if I even get a kiss from her. I don't want to push her, but she’s given me no explanation why she’s changed. And when I try to rekindle our passion, she says things like ‘I have to go in a minute’ or ‘I’m too tired at the moment, maybe later’ What do you think I should I do?
S.D.

Dear S.D.
Your girlfriend may have not given you any reasons, but there is certainly a reason behind her behaviour. All we know at present is she doesn’t feel able to tell you about it. As you have been together two years, I sense you have a high level of commitment to each other, so my advice would be just give her the time and space she needs. Don’t take it personally, just give her room and let her explain when she’s ready. Trust me, some people just need a break to collect themselves sometimes. Just don’t push her into doing anything rash, or talking before she’s ready.

Best Wishes and a Happy Christmas from all of us here at Jillington-on Sea.
Auntie Jill